As the original texts are written in Turkish, English translation is provided for non-Turkish readers. The author apologizes in advance for any and all possible changes and losses in meaning due to translation.
New Years often start for many people with a New Year’s resolution. Most of them are related to change aspects of our life. But what are the essential aspects when we like to change? I read in the Harvard Business Review an article that I like to refer to. The article has the title “if-you-want-to-change-don’t-read-this”, well I did and for me it is one of the shortest well formulated hints I found on the fundamentals why we often fail to change.
Here we go:
- Building self awareness:
Before we start our changing process, we should obtain and believe in honest and critical feedback from others. This is not easy to do, critical feedback needs courage, in social life and business life we witness often how people or managers struggle to give their friends or employees an honest and critical feedback out of fear to hurt them.
- Goals – what do you like to change?
Do not start with a dramatic goal like changing significant aspects of yourself and by that losing your personality, that what makes you unique. It sound like a business case but yes, we need a realistic strategy that focuses on realistic goals, by starting simple and specific (e.g. more listening, less shouting, etc.).
- Dedication or determination
Change needs willpower and we need to motivate and dedicate ourselves to the effort. Partners can help, but I believe at the end we have to drive it on our own. I saw a statistic that the reason why most of the people have a personal trainer is that the trainer is been used as a self created motivation pressure ( he is waiting, ..I have to go to the Gym).
At the end, change needs to be taken serious and it takes efforts since we are fighting against our own nature.
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